Dear ladies and gentlemen, have you ever been to a ball？ Do you know the etiquette about balls? Review with us!
Flawless dress code
The first and the most important thing for attending a ball is to pick the right dress/suits.
First, you have to know the type of venue you are attending, it is given on the invitation. In some rare cases, you can be asked to wear a white tie attire but is more specific to royal ceremonies or formal evening weddings. Prefer then the black-tie attire, mostly used for balls and formal dinners.
You can take that occasion to wear a beautiful traditional long-length gown for the night, choose a light or pastel colour for this type of dress, it will give you a very elegant silhouette.
It is also acceptable to wear a cocktail dress if you don’t want to buy a gown for this one-time event, you can then go for colours like black, jewel tones or metallic colours. The dress has to be at least below the knees, not too tight or too revealing.
Cover yourself with a nice coat during winter, for chilly night take a shawl or a cashmere wrap.
Wear high heels with small and sophisticated jewelleries.
Wear a tuxedo with a white shirt and a bowtie. The jacket and the pants should be the same colour either in black or midnight blue or opt for a velvet jacket which is on trend nowadays.
Accessorise your outfit with a watch and some cufflinks but remember to pair them.
Keep up your style: Make sure that you are presentable at any time, the jacket always on the shoulders, bowtie well tightened, maintain good discussions… you have to be impeccable.
Rules for ball
Be punctual, usually, the doors open an hour before the ball opening.
Practice dance steps
Practice some dance steps. Before the big night you should learn how to dance the Waltz, big classic in balls. If you want to go bigger, also learn some basics moves of tango, samba, rumba, salsa or foxtrot…
May I…? Gentlemen you are not the only ones to ask this question, Ladies you are also more than welcome to ask your date to dance, it is not customary for gentlemen to decline a lady’s invitation
Mind your manners
Mind your manners. A good behaviour will help you have good memories of the event, being disrespectful will have the opposite effect and give you a bad reputation and that’s not what you are looking for
No phones. Appreciate the moment, with your friends or your date, don’t constantly call, text or check your phone
Drink responsibly. You are spending several hours there, do not abuse too much on drinks or you might pass out on the dance floor
Dear ladies, how many of you have ever wondered how to be elegant and how to behave accordingly? Let’s see how with simple fashion rules to follow you can achieve a truly elegant style.
Attractive but not sexy
You can feel like wearing something sexy, but it has to be appropriate and not showing too much. E.g. if you want to wear a nice top with a décolleté, prefer wearing it with some pants or long skirts below.
Carefully pairing skin-tight clothes. If you want to wear a tight-fitting skirt, choose a nice loose blouse on top. Remember, if you want to wear sexy clothes, choose either the upper body or the lower body, never both or it can convey vulgarity.
The dress is skin-tight, but covers the shoulders, the arms, probably until the knees and is black; giving an interesting conservative / sexy balance.
Sheer clothes can be really elegant to wear, but you have to balance it carefully in order to not appear vulgar and bold. Go for clothes that mix transparency with thick fabrics covering your strategic points.
Taylor Swift in a mild colour sheer top with a bow button up has a very feminine romantic look.
Classic and timeless clothes
It is a time resistant, Coco Chanel in the 1900’ and Audrey Hepburn in the 1950’ both were icons of elegance and as of today they still are. You never go wrong with this style and people will always think of you as someone elegant.
The timeless dress
Every woman should have one in their closet, a little black dress, you never go wrong with this piece of garment and can be wear for any occasions.
Accessories give a little complete touch to the outfit but they should be kept to a minimum, do not bring attention on too many accessories in order to stay elegant. E.g. If you wear a beautiful and large necklace, wear more low-key bracelets or earrings.
Large necklace, big pearls as earrings, intense and shiny lips, several bracelets: this woman drive attention at too many different points.
Colours and patterns
An elegant lady knows how to dress appropriately according to the season and occassions. Eg. wear warm colours during the day, darker colours in the evening; simple attire while meeting casually with friends, and something more sophisticated for higher level social occasions.And please refer to the colour protocol for 2018 autumn look if you want to know more about the new tendencies.
Colour matching your clothes can be very confusing and to avoid any colours clash you only stick to neutral colours. Matching colours is not a very tricky, you just have to follow some simple rules
The monochrome rule
The complementary rule
The 3-colours rule
The colour-wheel you can use to find the perfect colours match
An elegant lady knows how to choose the right pattern for her clothes, but it should be one pattern, not several varieties which would create a visual conflict. If you wear a printed skirt, wear something plain on top, for example. Choose one type of pattern for each outfit. And avoid those of poor taste: i.e. no leopard prints, no fluorescent or shiny colours, no glitter.
In other word： stay simple. An elegant lady is mostly noticeable for her attitude, personality and her taste. What others rules do you have to be elegant? Leave us a comment!
Dear gentlemen, you are about to buy a new suit but you don’t know how to choose one that will fit your needs and your personality. In this article we will teach you all the steps to create your own suit with a tailor’s advice from Atelier Fusari.
Let’s remind the essentials if you need to dress like a gentleman. This month we have met Guillaume Rué de Bernadac our favorite Etiquette coach. Mr Rué de Bernadac is a French gentleman travelling all around China to give classes on how to stand, how to eat or how to sit and walk properly. Mr Rué de Bernadac is a suit lover and it was a pleasure to write together on how to wear a suit properly!
Which details matter for a proper suit?
How to choose the fabric?
Choosing the right fabric for your tailor-made suit requires good taste and fabric knowledge.
In order to choose an appropriate fabric, we always ask our clients on the occasion they need a suit for, if they have a discreet or a strong personality, and as well as how many suits they already own.
Mr Rué de Bernadac chose a very elegant pattern fabric, dark colour, very fine stripes, smooth finishing, this fabric totally matches his personality and that’s how we like to work !
What about the suit style ?
Mr Rué de Bernadac chose a double breasted suit, which corresponds the best to his needs and his personality. What could be more elegant than a double breasted suit to attend events weekly and to teach elegance in China?
How to wear this suit style?
Keep your double-breasted suit buttoned while standing or sitting. There’s a button on the inside called the “anchor button” that should also be fastened all the time.
Details for a proper suit
Another important thing while choosing your next suit are DETAILS !
Details matter to recognize a proper suit from lower quality suit. To be the most elegant you need the perfect fit. Atelier Fusari experts stylists are here to enhance your style. Take appropriate measurements, work on all adjustments needed to make your body shape better and create a modern suit cut, are important factors in tailor-made. Beside this, colour matching, suit design, button quality need to be carefully selected.
Complete your outfit
We emphasize some gentleman details on the above pictures. Accessories will complete your gentleman look. Bowtie, pocket square, cuff links are accessories every gentlemen need !
Mr Rué de Bernadac particularly loved our Weixuwang collection with premium and original bowtie set made in Shanghai.
Never overdress or underdress
Prefer a white shirt
Dark suits are always more elegant
Dear gentlemen, I hope you enjoyed this article and will from now on know how to create your own tailor-made suit. Please share with us if you have any questions!
This article was first published by Atelier Fusari
Dear ladies and gentlemen, very often we will attend some social events, like formal dinners, cocktail parties etc. However, there are always some unforeseen circumstances that would embarrass everyone. Then what would you do to gracefully remove yourself from such embarrassments?
You barely knew the person standing in front of you, and he/she is talking endlessly about topics you have no interest in. I am sure you would like to end this dull conversation and leave this person as soon as possible. What would you do?
How to do
Before we already talked about how to leave a discussion. So here the rules are simple, if you want to end this dull conversation with politeness, instead of giving the other a bored face, you could:
Tell the person you have just seen someone you need to greet
Say that you would like to go take a drink / a plate of food if there is a buffet
Ask where the toilets are
Introduce the person to someone else you know in the room and then you could leave
In social/business/daily occasions, you could hardly avoid some unfriendly questions raised by “ignorant” people. Such as questions that are too much related to individual privacy that you don’t want to answer; or questions that are meant to embarrass you in public; or questions touch your bottom line but with an innocent questioner. Then how would you relax the tensions with good manners?
How to do
Use your humor to change the topic smoothly without answering the question
For the questions that are meant to embarrass you, you could simply ignore if possible; if not, I am sure you are wise enough to strike it back with politeness
You could refuse to answer with a smile“sorry, I can’t answer this question right now”
Are you married?
Nowadays, the most unwelcoming questions seem to be “Do you have a girlfriend/boy friend? When do you plan to get married?” or “Are you married? When are you going to have kids?” You could choose to answer these questions according to our tips above:
Use your humor “ My girlfriend lost her way finding me, she has no sense of direction so it takes time. + another topic)”
Ask the person with politeness and a smile “I don’t know, what about you/your son? Is he getting married soon?” (Lead the topic to the other person, because people always like talking about themselves”
Sorry, it is not on my to do list right now
Whatever the unfriendly questions are, I am sure you will find a way to “answer” them. But never let these unfriendly questions ruin your day and don’t lose your temper in public.
Sometimes in social occasions, you may also receive some excessive requests from others. For example, you are not a drinker but are asked to drink wine/alcohol; or the other person keep asking your weibo/facebook/ins account or your phone number, which you are reluctant to offer.
How to do
If you are asked to drink alcohol, simply tell them firmly that “Sorry, I don’t drink.” “I am allergic to alcohol, sorry”, “I am the driver today, sorry I can not.”Upon excessive requests, you should give a firm and clear “no” to these requesters otherwise they will keep asking. Of course, a soft excuse is always better, but do not surrender simply for “saving face” .
Over intimate behaviours will make people feel uncomfortable for the invasion of personal space. It is said the proper social distance (for unfamiliar friends) is 120-360cm. What if someone doesn’t respect this rule?
How to do
If you are not used to greet with hug or cheek kissing, initiate a handshake first
If you feel the person stands too close to you, turn your body to put your bag or whatever held in your hand in between
You could also step aside, and let a third person to fit in
Dear ladies and gentlemen, do you have any experience or story to share with us regarding this topic? Or have you ever encountered some difficult situations that you don’t know how to deal with? Feel free to leave us a comment!
Dear ladies and gentleman, pronouncing Chinese names can be tricky and hard for non-native speakers. Therefore, Chinese people usually decide to give themselves or their children anglicised names so it’s easier for them to integrate into Western society. However, do you know what is the best method for choosing the proper name which won’t ashamed you?
Our guide for giving a proper English name is suitable for any English-speaking country, we will use America as an example.
Part I : What you should avoid
Don’t use Chinese naming practice when choosing an English name.
Don’t worry about the meaning of the name since most of the Americans don’t even know the meaning behind their names, so they wouldn’t also know about meaning of yours. Nobody cares about ‘true meanings’ of English names.
If you have some friend called Philip, ask him if he knows that his name means “Friend of horses”.
Do not translate some positive-sounding word in your language or your name into English and make that into your name. If your name is ‘Shuang’ don’t name yourself ‘Happy’.
Don’t try to be creative.
Avoid picking names you’ve seen in movies, television or other names that sound cool, cute or trendy to you. You don’t have western sense of humor, most likely they will think it is absurd or horrible. You don’t want your name or name of your child to be like this:
Avoid always asking your Chinese friends or family what they think about some names since you will interact with Westerns in future. Unless those people e.g. live abroad or have Western friend.
Don’t copy celebrities.
Some of them are using their artistic names under which they perform, those are not official names.
Another reason is that you have high opinion about that person but some others don’t have, you don’t want people to relate you with that celebrity because you have the same name.
That celebrity might have/had old-fashioned name which is not suitable for this period.
Part II : What you should do
Choose a name from the 100 most popular names for your or yours kid birth year.
The United States Social Security Administration has a website that allows you to look up for those names. Just enter the birth year and the list will show up accordingly.
The recommendation is not to choose the first 10 since they are top-ranked and probably a lot of people have it. Consider other 90 names.
Now have a look at those names and see if some sound similar to your name. E.g. if your name is ‘Sheng’ you can choose ‘Shawn’ as an English name.
After choosing one name from 90 possible don’t try to change it to sound more unique or cute. E.g. If you choose name Jack don’t add y, Jacky is a nickname that Americans use to call their children. Don’t use it as an official name.
When you choose your name don’t feel uncomfortable if some Westerns give you a nickname accordingly to your English name. Probably they liked you and that’s how they are showing their sympathy.
Avoid changing your anglicised name from time to time. Once you choose stick to it. Otherwise it creates confusion and you will look like someone who is not capable of making decisions or someone insecure.
Dear all, I hope this article will help you with this hard task- choosing the proper name. Please feel free to share your favourite English name or some funny names you may heard of!
Let me start sharing funny names with you, e.g. once I met a man called Eleven and a lady called King. How about you?
Arts De La Table
Dear ladies and gentlemen: we often have family dinners, or dinners with friends. How to create a proper table plan for this occasion? I propose you to discover here the etiquette rules for social occasions.
What are table plans
We use table plans to designate who will be seated where at the table. This is not done at random but by precedence: who is more important, more senior, than whom, and who has the right to be seated next to important people. Imagine for instance you have to do a table plan for these people for dinner at your home:
Complicated right? I will give you the answer after a few explanations.
How to create table plans
Step One: People
In our example, squares are men, rounds are women. Square 1 is the most important man, round 1 the most important woman, square 2 the 2nd most important man, round 2 the 2nd most important man etc.
Step Two:How to start?
You start to place the host and hostess at the extremity of the table.
This is the family style. Generally, the host faces the entrance of guests (so that he can guide late comers) and the hostess faces the kitchen door, in order to guide staff serving with eye contact. We use the same approach for round tables.
Step 3: How to place the people ranked 2nd?
Here you have to remember 2 rules:
The right is more important than the left.
We alternate the genders.
You will note it is actually the same for a round table:
The most important man (the host)has the 2nd most important womanon his right.
Then we place the 3rd most important lady on his left. Same for the hostess.
Mrs. 2 has the seniority ranking to receive Mr. 4 on her right.
Mr. 2 has the seniority ranking to receive Mrs. 4 on his right. We place the 5 then.
In reality, there is often not the same amount of ladies and gentlemen, sothen you have to be smart.
Let’s come back to our guests.
So, first of all, who will be the host with you? (we consider “you” as a lady, the table plan would be different if “you” is a gentleman). It has to be a man, as there is not your husband / boyfriend here. Then most important man here, and the only official, is Emmanuel Macron, as President of France.
On your right, the 2nd most important man could be either Ma Yun or Ma Huateng. I consider Ma Yun has been successful and famous before Ma Huateng, so he has the precedence.
Then, who is the 2nd most important lady seating on the right of Macron? Normally it should be Brigitte Macron, but spouses cannot be seated together. So I choose to place Angelina Jolie, as she is an UN embassador.
The 3rd most important man is of course Ma Huateng. On the left of Macron I choose to place Zhang Ziyi, as she has been famous before all the other ladies.
Now we can place Brigitte Macron on the right of Ma Yun. Ma Huateng deserves to have the next most important lady: Gao Yuanyuan (who has been famous before Lady Gaga)
Finally, on the side of Angelina Jolie we should have a man, but we only have women left. Shall we have Lady Gaga of your sister? In table plans, family members are “useful guests”: you can place them at the last rank they should not hate you too much (normally…), and you make feel your second to last guest good to have someone of your family below him/her. That’s why I place Gaga close to Angelina Jolie, and the sister close to Zhang Ziyi.
This was an example of simple complexity. Imagine now how difficult it can be if you have dozens of persons to place, and have to find out who is of higher importance than who! If you want to know more, please inform me in the comments!
This article was first published by Michelin
Mode Femme Mode Homme
Dear ladies and gentlemen, you may receive an invitation nowadays which read white tie, black tie or cocktail dress code required. What does that mean? What are dos and don’ts of each type? Let’s review together!
White Tie Attire
It is the most formal dress code and not so common these days. White tie is specific at royal ceremonies, balls, state and livery dinners. Sometimes it’s specified for formal evening weddings or charity balls.
Dress: Full-length, formal evening dresses. It is traditional to show décolletage, not mandatory.
Gloves: Long ones are mandatory. An older woman in a sleeveless dress should wear gloves with a cap or short sleeves dress with gloves. Should be worn all the time, except for the dinner.
Jewelry: Can be striking. Finest jewels and gems, including tiaras.
Clutch: Evening bags should be small and elegant
Cover: Wear smart evening coat, cloak, pashmina or wrap in a suitable material.
High heels: Open or closed ones, but mandatory.
Shorter dresses or trousers, no matter how smart, are not acceptable.
It is incorrect for young girls to wear tiaras on any occasion.
Coat: 4- or 6-button black barathea wool tailcoat with satin-faced peak lapels. The tails hit at the back of the knee and the sleeves can be a touch shorter than you may be accustomed to.
Trousers: Black barathea wool with double satin braiding on outseams.
Waistcoat: Low-cut single-breasted in white piqué cotton with three buttons.
Tie: White piqué cotton self-tie bow tie.
Shirt: White cotton, double cuff wing collar with piqué bib and a tab to fasten to trousers.
Shoes: Black patent leather oxfords or opera pumps.
Optional: Shirt studs, white dress scarf, white dress gloves, white pocket square, black top hat, and, of course, cufflinks.
When indoor don’t forget to remove your hat.
Don’t miss a chance to take part in white tie event, you may lose the opportunity to look the best in your life.
Black Tie Attire
It is less formal than white tie. Used for formal dinners (public & private), parties and balls, or some seasonal events.
Dress / skirt: Long or at least below the knee. The dresses don’t need to be black.
Tights: Wear black or sheer ones.
Jewelry: Fine or costume one is appropriate.
Clutch: An elegant evening bag should be used.
Cover: If it is necessary, wear an evening coat as for white tie.
High heels: Open or closed ones, but mandatory
Do not wear tiaras or any decorations.
Do not wear extravagant dresses.
Avoid too tight dresses, you should not wear a sexy attire for this formality.
Bow tie: Black hand-tied one.
Shirt: White with regular collar and black eclipsed button.
Jacket: With silk facings.
Trousers: Black with a single row of braid down each outside leg.
Cummerbund: Black to cover the waist.
Shoes: Black polished.
Don’t over accessorize, watch and cufflinks are enough.
Don’t wear a clip on your tie, you have to tie it by yourself.
This type allows semi-formal look that fills the gap between casual day wear and formal evening attire and it is applied when having a cocktail party after work (business cocktail), afternoon parties or sports events on weekends (social cocktail) or for private events (weddings, anniversaries…)
Dress: Go for little black dress or midi dress with length not more than 5cm above the knees.
Skirt: Long and flounce skirt are recommended, graceful and light ones.
Shirt: A fluid and sophisticated shirt are possible.
T-Shirt: If you want to wear a t-shirt, chose the matching jacket or shawl to your attire.
Trousers: convenient but prefer to choose a light material, it will help to materialize sensually your shape.
High heels: Not mandatory but recommended.
Don’t wear sexy attire, not too slim, not too short.
Don’t choose casual fabrics like denim, jersey, chino, etc.
Don’t wear outward-looking colours like pink, flashy green, etc. Try to keep sober patterns.
Shirt: White or pastel colour (light blue, light pink)
Suit: Dark colours for the evening, lighter if afternoon. A different pattern is acceptable.
Tie: Recommended but not mandatory, it can be creative.
Cuff links and pocket squares: Non-essential but can spice up the outfit.
Belt: Must be the same colour as the shoes.
Shoes: Large range of choice amongst leather or suede shoes.
Socks: In case you wear them, match with trousers or something else in your outfit.
Leave your tuxedo at home, don’t be overdressed.
Never wear white socks, they are only for sport.
Don’t upstage the host, if you’re attending any occasion in which the spotlight is meant to be on someone specific, leave the bright colours and flashy accessories at home.
Dear all, I like to quote Coco Chanel when I talk about grooming: “Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance”. Keep that in mind for your following events!
This article was first published by Michelin
Dear ladies and gentlemen, many of you regularly ask us how to be a better speaker in public. This is an art we can all work on, to impress people. I propose you here 6 tips to increase your oral impact.
How to start a speech?
Don’t: Starting with apologies is the worst option. “Sorry for the light which is weak”, “My apologies for the the screen, it’s not working well.“ That way you attract attention on problems, while most of the time participants haven’t even noticed them!
Do: Start with a silence. Look at your audience, take 3 breaths and start to talk. You will look more confident and it will help you to relax. Open with greetings, introduce yourself and start your speech.
How strong should your voice be?
Don’t: When we are not comfortable, we tend to keep a low voice, audible only for people seated closely to us. If you do so, people seated further won’t hear and will stop following you.
Do: Simply, you should speak loud enough as if you were speaking to the person the furthest in the room. So you are sure everyone can hear you.
How to keep a moisturised mouth?
Don’t: If you don’t drink enough during your speech, your diction is more difficult. Your mouth will be furry, you will have some small balls of saliva at the edge of your lips and some white strings when you open the mouth. On top of that, a bad breath.
Do: Having a glass of water (more elegant than a bottle) is of course the best. You may also bite the tip of your tongue, it will activate the production of water in your mouth.
Where should you look at?
Don’t: Never speak while looking at your paper, or the screen of your computer. You should neither look at the floor nor the ground.
Do: Always keep your body facing the public. If you need to have a look at your computer sometimes, keep it between you and the public. If you have a projector, you should not be looking at what is projected, still at the public.
Shall I look at people? For how long?
Don’t: Avoid ignoring some participants of your public by not looking at them, they would loose the interest. Of course, avoid staring at someone for too long. You should also avoid giving vague eye contact to the whole audience.
Do: You should look at people directly in the eyes, for around 3 seconds in a row. That way you give the impression to address this person directly, but not for too long. Repeat this with every participants.
How to keep people’s attention?
Don’t: The biggest threat is the monotonous voice. 100% certain you will loose people’s attention and send them back checking their phone.
Do: Your voice should alternate between the 5 “P”. Power (alternate strong and weak voice), Pitch (alternate high and low voice), Pace (fast and slow), Pause (have breaks of 3 seconds and more at the sentence’s end), Passion (communicate emotions). Your speech will be more captivating.
Dear ladies and gentlemen, this was only theory, the best is of course the practice.
Dear ladies, gentlemen and children our pets are our best friends! In order to cherish that relationship, we should be well-mannered! How to elegantly walk with a pet? Can you bring your dog to a wedding? Should you separate your pet and houseguests? Let’s solve these concerns together!
How to treat my pet?
Commit yourself – pet is a living creature, commit your time and care.
Treat it as a family member – involve your pet in family activities.
Arrange its place in the house – a pet should have a place to sleep, play, eat.
Be responsible pet owner – No matter where you are, you should clean up after your pet.
How to walk elegantly with a pet？
Be in control – you are walking your pet, not the other way around.
Practice – keep your dog next to or behind you when walking, teach it how to be synchronized with you.
Posture – keep your walking posture nice and straight, walk heel to toe and keep your head up, look 3 to 6 m in front of you.
How to shop with a pet?
Prepare your pet – it’s best to start small and work your way up, so they can gradually become used to things. Crowded places, strong smells can affect their behaviour. Once it’s gotten used to staying calm and by your side among the crowds, then it’s time to move inside.
Check the store policy – Quite a number of big retailers have dog-friendly policies, but be sure to call the specific store before your first visit to verify.
How to travel with a pet?
Check requirements – ensure with all your transportation providers that your pet will have a safe trip with you to your destination and that you have all needed paperwork.
Notice the hotel – let them arrange anything you may need once you arrive.
Know your pet – be prepared that your pet will be stressed, train your pet to behave in its travel bag before the trip.
Pets & Houseguests
Check with your guests – your pet is your best friend but your guests may not like it. Before the arrival of your guest, make sure you checked if they feel comfortable in presence of your pet. Some people can be e.g. scared of dogs, or may be allergic to your pet. Consider keeping your pet in a separate room.
Clean the house – make sure there are no pet’s toys around the house which could be in the guest’s way.
Give your pet a bath – Washing your dog or cat regularly can actually reduce the amount of allergens in your home.
Check with your hosts – If you’d like to visit your friends with a pet, call them first to double-check if your pet is welcome.
Pets & Children
Educate your child – teach him/her about the pet you own. What does it eat? How to cuddle? How to take care?
Make him/her responsible – let your child be in charge of something, e.g. replacing the water, walking the dog, cleaning the cage, etc.
Strangers & Pet – show your kid how to introduce a pet to his/her friend or teach your kid how to interact with someone’s else pet.
Pets & Special events
Pet as a guest of honour – since your pet is a family member it’s normal that e.g. on your wedding day you’d like to celebrate together. In that case, find someone that can take care of it through the day so you can focus on other details.
You and pet as guests – double check with inviter whether you may come together and rethink if you can spend the specific event with your lovely friend.
Provide your pet a suitable clothing.
And finally, be creative! Your best friend will happily follow and share all your moments with you! What else do you usually do with your pet? Share with us!
Arts De La Table
Dear ladies, gentlemen and children, it is believed that practising good Chinese dining manners can bring health and good fortune. An ill-timed faux-pas at a dinner could hinder the forging of new deals or friendships. Let’s review together 10 mistakes to be avoided!
Not using serving chopsticks when sharing food
You may encounter on a situation when you sit by the lazy Susan and enjoy the dinner with your friends or family. When sharing food, you shouldn’t use your chopsticks to take the food from communal bowls and plates, for hygiene reasons. Instead of that, use serving chopsticks to put the food onto your plate/bowl. You may find them in the middle of the table, on the dishes or next to your personal chopsticks. Usually, they come in different colours.
Spitting bones on the table
In old traditional customs, people use to spit bones on the table, with a time that changed. Now, socially acceptable is to spit bones and other inedible parts on the plate or in the bowl. You could do that by shifting bones from your mouth onto the chopsticks and then onto the plate, in some cases , you can also use fingers. If you don’t have a plate for that, you could always ask the waiter to bring you one, a backup solution is to use a tissue.
Leaving the chopsticks anywhere
If you are having a break while you are eating, use the chopsticks rest and place them, if not, put the chopsticks on one side on the plate/bowl together and parallel. When you finish eating, place them in the middle of a plate in a tidy manner (together and parallel).
Speaking too loud while dining
We like to enjoy our food but sometimes we can be distracted by some noisy fellow dinners. It is best not to talk with others with your mouth full. Be temperate in laughing lest you spew your food or the food goes down your windpipe and causes choking. If you need to talk, you should speak little and quietly. Let others to enjoy their food.
Smoking while someone else is eating
These days you may notice that some people do not follow the smoking policy. Smoke only in restaurants with smoking sections, and it is acceptable to smoke freely there so long as you are not a nuisance to fellow diners. Try avoiding smoking in front of the ladies and children.
Slurping or burping while eating
Traditionally, this was considered as a compliment and an expression of enjoying the food but now it is considered rude. You still may express your satisfaction but verbally.
Using the chopsticks to explore a dish
Some people tend to move food around before they chose the most likeable morsel and bring it to their bowl/plate. We should not be a picky eater! Especially if we are not using the serving chopsticks! If you spot some special morsel, wait for the right moment when you can take it elegantly.
Not having proper sitting and dining posture
People tend to bend down close to the table when eating while they should sit up straight with elbows off the table. You should bring food to the mouth, not the other way around.
Using phone while dining
The proper etiquette says that we should not even put our phone on the table, especially not to use it while dining. It is disrespectful towards other dinner participants. Nowadays, it is modern to take a photo before eating, but avoid editing/posting picture while eating, do it afterwards. In case you are expecting a call, let others know you might use your phone during dinner, even then, feel free to leave a table until you finish that matter.
Picking teeth with a fingernail
You must have encountered on the following situation. While or after eating, a piece of food is stuck between your teeth. Then, please use a toothpick to solve this issue. And when you do so, use another hand to cover your mouth so nobody can see inside your mouth.
Dear food lovers, now you are all set to enjoy your next meal! Are there other dining mistakes that you noticed and we didn’t mention? Please share with us!
Dear ladies, when it comes to high heels, I know you have a special place in your hearts for them. We already have talked about perfect heel height, which height to have for different occasions and postures.Today, let’s talk about heel’s shape and elegance.
Which high heels are appropriate for work according to you?
Which one do you think is proper for working? I am sure you alreay have your answers. But please let me help you review some general rules when wearing high heels:
Leather shoes look more elegant and classy, and they will fit your feet better.
You can wear tights with close toe high heels, but not with the open style.
When wearing open shoes, please do a proper pedicure in advance.
Now, let us review the different shapes one by one!
Kitten heels are heels with the height from 3cm to 5 cm. The most common shoes that give a feminine touch for both social and business circumstances, but remains proper, serious.
Kitten heels are perfect match for almost all the looks. You may wear them with a suit, skirt or a dress,.
It suits all the daily activities such as working, shopping.etc. You can also wear them when you travel.
Stilettos high heels
Heels over 8cm are called stilettos high heels. Wearing stilettos will make you looks taller and your legs look slimmer. It is the highest you could choose for social or professional activities.
8-10 cm is perfect to show your feminine shape. Better match them with pants or long dress, avoid wearing skirts or it will be too sexy.
This height is not a good choice for ladies who lack practice of walking in high heels. Plus, you can not standing or walking for a very long time, or your feet will be very tired.
You could wear the stilettos when attending night events, or events that allow you to have seats.
Chunky heels are those with rough heels. They could be more stable and comfortable to wear than the stilettos. But with the rough heels, your overall image might not have the flexible touch as with the stilettos do.
You can wear them with pants, dress, skirts or suits. Pay attention, you had better wear cloths of light fabrics to balance with the rough heels.
You can wear them for both social and professional occasions. But your deportment looks heavy with the big heels.
Sling back heel
If you want to have more security, then heels with one strap that goes around the back of the Achilles heel are the best.
Wear together with pants, skirt or a dress for having an elegant look.
The slings on the shoes make it easier to walk, and suitable for all occasions.
For those who have small heels, please avoid this shape because there is no way to put insoles into the shoes.
Can you believe it? The first Mules in the world is wore by Louis XIV! And later it became popular worldwide. In general, Mules have a wide or a closed front part to cover the skin of your feet.
You may wear them with pants, skirt or dress for more elegant look. And similarly, cloths with light fabrics are preferable.
Mules are for more casual look and for social activities.
Many women will probably find themselves at some point wanting the extra height and elegance, then they may choose a pair of platform stilettos. Contrary to the common belief that height comes at the expense of comfort, many people say platform heels are actually more comfortable than stilettos.
Try not to wear super tight shorts or skirts with platform heels; it’s not an elegant look, and might give people the wrong impression.
Avoid wearing them to every event where you may have to walk a lot.
Platforms are not recommended if you want to emphasise your trustworthiness or seriousness.
Fantasy high heels
There are so many types of heels you could never think of in your head, and yet they do exist. They are designed to attract people’s attention, but not very practical.
If you want to emphasize on your shoes, then you don’t have to match them with extremly uncoventional dress or suits.
Wear them if you are a designer or artist and you want to show very strong personal statement.
Dear ladies, there are more than 20 high heel’s shapes, I am sure you would like to know about them so please let me know which one in particular you are interested in!
Dear ladies, gentlemen and children, there is one small piece of property that we may not treat properly. It was invented in China in the 11th century BC, it was the first silk and waterproof article used by nobility and royalty. It protects us all year long. As you may guess, it’s an umbrella! Today I propose you to review together the proper umbrella etiquette.
Umbrella opening & closing
Keep an umbrella close to your body and then slowly open in the oblique position.If you have a long handle umbrella, be careful not to poke someone, especially if it’s a one-click open close umbrella. When there is water on it, it will splash into other people’s face if you don’t open umbrella slowly in the direction of no people around it.
With closing your umbrella you should tend to keep it as low as possible so you don’t splash other people and letting drops falling down away from others.
Walking with an umbrella
When you hold an open umbrella, the distance between the runner and your head should be around 20 cm so it won’t hit you while walking and the raindrops won’t fall on your upper body. While walking keep a certain distance from other people, so you can avoid poking them with the edge of an umbrella and prevent ourselves and others from getting wet. When facing someone on the street, you can tilt the umbrella in the opposite direction and prevent umbrella striking. In case you are taller than the other person, higher up the umbrella. If you feel tired from carrying it, rest your arm by putting the shaft on your shoulder.
Walking in pair
When two people with the same gender are using one umbrella, the taller one should hold it. In case, a lady is accompanied by a gentleman, he should hold it in a way that fully protects a lady.
Poses for elegant umbrella usage
The umbrella face is parallel to the ground, and the umbrella handle is normal to ground. With this umbrella’s position, you look elegant and sophisticated.
If there is a direct sunlight and you are using a sun umbrella, lean it back a little so that you can see the way clear before you. If the sun is splaying diagonally and you are using a sun umbrella, the selection of the holding hands is usually the same as the direction of the light source. For example, if the light comes from the right side, the right hand is used to hold the umbrella. This way you will be fully protected from the sun without difficulties with keeping the elegant look.
When a long umbrella is not used, a man can hold an umbrella vertically, which gives a feeling of the British gentleman. A lady can hang umbrella hook on the wrist or hold umbrella vertically and still remain sophisticated.
When entering the room from the outside, the umbrella should be placed outside to control the water dryness, and the umbrella should be put into the umbrella holder if there is one. Put umbrella into the plastic bag or umbrella bag provided by the mall when entering the shopping mall or other places. Also, prepare a handkerchief (one with the texture of a towel is better) to wipe away your wet bags and clothing.
In case of sudden rain, we can rent an umbrella. Even though it’s not our belonging we should treat it equally, with care! Keep in mind that you should return it so it can be also helpful for other people.
Being a gentleman
If a sudden rain appears and a gentleman meets a lady, he should offer an umbrella to her. If she accepts, she should ask for returning address. If she hesitates to accept such a gesture, a gentleman may still offer to accompany her to her destination.
In case there are two ladies and a gentleman, he should let them to carry the umbrella between them and he walks outside of it.
I wish you to stay polite, cool and dry! Do you have any question regarding elegant umbrella usage? Please don’t hesitate to ask in the comments below!
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Dear ladies and gentlemen, there are 194 counties in the world that wait to be discovered by you. Don’t wait until you’ve already ordered a steak in New York or delicious baguette in Paris to figure it out whether or not you should leave a tip. Instead, let me guide you through gratuity etiquette.
USA & Canada
In case you are going to visit these countries the tipping etiquette according to the person providing you a service is:
Waiter : 15-20 percent of the total amount
Sommelier : 15-20 percent of the bottle, or 2-3$ / bottle
Coatroom : 2$ + 1$/ article
Bartender: 15-20 percent, min 50cts
Valet : 2$
Groom : 2$ / luggage, 5$ if heavy
Tourist guide: 10-20 percent
Taxi driver : 10-20 percent
Be aware that if you don’t follow these tipping rules, you’ll be considered as a rude and ungrateful person. Most of the people that receive tips have low salaries because actually they are getting paid from you.
Tips should never be left on a credit card anywhere in Europe. Generally speaking, there is no universal rule about gratuity amount, it depends on a country.
Only if it was the really good service. If you see « service compris » on your bill that means no tip required.
UK and Ireland
You should leave 10-15 percent after payment. Make sure the service is not already included in the bill. There is no need to tip in the bars.
Germany / Austria
They have a range of opinions about the proper amount to tip, leaving 10 percent is a reasonable tip for good service, add it to the total amount.
Spain, Italy, Belgium, Netherlands
In these countries usually, you should leave 7-10 percent of the total amount.
Tipping is very rare. In some countries, service charges are already included in the bill.
Rest of the world
In restaurants, 15 percent is polite. At hotels, 250 rupees for the housekeeper who is low paid. Some people will ask for tips for no apparent reason.
It is customary to tip good service in South Africa. An acceptable amount is 10-15 percent. For guides, you should give 100 Rand per person per day or 10 percent to private drivers. In hotels tip 10-15 Rand per night.
It’s optional but appreciated. In restaurants and hotels, small amounts.
Tipping is not recommended. There is often a 10 percent service charge added to the bill. You don’t need to tip extra. You can tip bellhops around 1SIN – 2SIN per bag.
Wait staff in Australia are paid a livable wage, so they don’t expect tips. Still, in case of a great service, tips are appreciated.
Argentina/ Brazil/ Peru/ Uruguay
Do not have a strong tipping culture. Still, giving a small gratuity to waiters, bartenders, hotel staff, and tour guides will keep you in their good graces.
No need for leaving tips. In case there is a tip jar, you may leave some tips.
Tipping is considered as an insulting gesture.
This country is basically a no-tip culture. The tips won’t be accepted.
Are there any other countries that you are interested in? Let me know in the comments below!
One is not born noble, one becomes one. The aristocratic behaviour cannot be possessed in one day; it comes over time through constant efforts. For you ladies and gentlemen to acquire the true essence of etiquette, let’s discover the noble heritage together on November 17th at Hilton Shenzhen Futian.
Class I: socializing etiquette
Social etiquette and self-introduction
Introduce each other
Correct titles and forms
Small talks and topics to avoid
Sitting posture: how to make your legs look longer
Standing posture:alone or with someone else
Walking posture: how to walk with confidence
Class II: advanced table manners
How to set up the table
French table manners
Difference between Chinese and Western table manners
Proper posture at the table
Class III: elegant deportment
Arms, shoulders and body posture
How to pick things from the ground
How to enter/leave a room with panache
How to turn
How to stand: alone or with someone else
Walk with something in hand: bags, umbrella…
Class Time: 10:00-16:00
Hilton Shenzhen Futian
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Quota: 10 Seats
Ladies: elegant dress or suits; heels less than 8cm
Gentlemen: formal dresscode, suit with tie, leather shoes
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Dear gentlemen, our hairstyle is an important part of our first impression. It projects confidence, may give you younger appearance and also affects admiration and respect from others. How to find the one that looks most flattering on you? Please follow me to discover!
It is all about the balance and contrast. To create an ideal look we should consider 2 things: hair texture and our face shape.
Know your texture
You may have fine hair or thick hair, look at the mirror and make a guess:
Fine hair is thin and fragile and has a difficult time holding a style.
Thick hair allows you to pull out all desired hairstyles. Asian hair is usually thick and shiny.
Know your face shape
For having the best-suited hairstyle you have to know your face shape. Follow these easy steps:
Stand in front of the mirror or put the mirror in front of your face
Pull back your hair and hold it in place
Using a lipstick or a bar of a soap trace the outline of your head onto the mirror
Compare your outline with possible face shapes to find yours
Now have a look at our recommendations for your face shape!
Face shapes & Hairstyle
Wide jaw bones and high cheekbones are main features on men’s face.
Keep your sideburns short and hair above the ears
Try having your hair relatively short but styled upward to elongate the face
Oval face shape
It is recognized as an ideal face shape, so congratulations – every hairstyle looks good on you! Your face is longer than the width of your cheekbones.
Create some volume at the top as it will help to elongate your features
Make sure that you don’t choose a hairstyle that makes your face look longer than it actually is
Diamond face shape
Diamond shaped faces’ main feature is their length and a pointy chin. This face shape looks good with longer hair.
Think of softening your most angular features with a layered haircut.
consider growing mid-long hairstyle to create an oval shape.
Round face shape
With this shape you should tend to elongate your face, to have a longer, defined jawline.
Avoid short hairstyles because it brings attention to forehead and undefined jawline.
You have to create the illusion of height and angles, so keep your hair really short on the sides, and longer on top, as to create height, and length to the face.
Triangle face shape
A triangle head shape is defined by a thinner cheekbone/temple area that extends to a wider jawline.
You may want to add width and volume to the top of your head by going for longer hair to balance out your jaw.
A fringe can create the illusion of a thicker forehead which reduced the impact of a strong chin.
Oblong face shape
This is one of the most proportioned face shapes out there as cheekbones, jawline and chin are well-balanced.
Make sure that you don’t choose a hairstyle that makes your face look longer than it actually is.
Dear gentlemen, the haircut sets the tone for a man’s style, use this power and make your look irresistible! Share in the comments what shape do you have, mine is diamond!
Dear ladies, have you ever found yourself wondering how to smoothly transition between your summer and autumn wardrobe? It’s a common problem we all face. Here’s a quick five-minute guide to how to change up your autumn wear and stay stylish throughout this season.
The rules for colour matching
Knowing how to match the colours is crucially important for the overall style.
Contrast colour principle: choose colours with strong contrast, which will enhance the lively clean bright look. Eg. black&white, yellow&purple.
Strong contrast between blue and orange, very eyecatching
Similar colour principle: if you want to add an exquisite touch to your attire, match with similar colour or gradient colours. Eg. pure red & burgundy red, yellow & orange.
Similar colours create a harmonious look, suitable for both social & business occasions
Tricolor principle: less is more, please keep no more than 3 colours and with distinctive gradation for one match. The dominant colour counts around 60%, the complementary colour around 40% , while the third colour(ornament colour) is around 5%-15%.
The dominant colour is orange, complementary colour is white, while her black bag and glasses is the third colour
Colours for autumn
Every season has its own characterized colours. For autumn, lots of people will choose the classic three: black, white and grey. Besides, camel and caramel are also popular, for they add a warm and dignified sense to the overall look.
Camel is classic colour for autumn, it is a colour makes people feel warm
Caramel is a « heavy » colour, but could match with any colour you prefer
Matches with classic colours will never get you wrong, but if you want to be brilliant and different, try some of these trendy colours in 2018 to light you up! The top three in 2018 New York fashion-colours-for-autumn&winter released by Pantone Color Institute are: Red Pear, Valiant Poppy and Nebulas Blue. Other popular colours include: Martini Olive, Russet Orange, Ceylon Yellow, Quetzal Green, Mellow Rose, Almond Buff, Quiet Gray, etc.
Autumn looks in 2018
This colour is of a great sense of classical luxury, and will make your skin brighter. Perfect match with most of the colours like: orange, black, red, white and blue.
Valiant Poppy is a bright colour that is very similar to pure red. It fits very well for people with darker/yellow skin. Match with the three basic colours(black, white, grey) to balance if you think this colour is too aggressive.
The grey coat balanced the red, make it a more professional look
Nebulas Blue ranks the third among the most poplar colours 2018. It is a clear and pure colour with distinctiveness. You could match it with similar blue, or black, white, grey, and camel. Ladies with darker/yellow skin should be careful when wearing Nebulas Blue outfits. If you are not comfortable to use this colour as the dominant one, feel free to choose it as the ornament colour.
Quetzal Green combines the features from both blue and green. The most attractive match is paired it with yellow, and you could use white as the transition colour between the two. You could also match Quetzal Green with any shades of blue.
Dear ladies, which match do you like? Please just follow the colour protocol and choose those fit you! In the next articles, we will continue to introduce you different dresscode for autumn & winter, keep following and you will be surprised!
What do you think about these three colours, do you like it? Leave us a comment and we will introduce more~!
Dear ladies and gentlemen, social manners are critically important in diplomatic occasions. For politicians, being exposed to cameras and examined by critics are their routine. Today, we will have a special analysis of the social manners of American President: Donald Trump. How many mistakes can you recognize?
Curtsy or Salute?
When you have the chance to meet Queen Elizabeth II, you should curtsy to the Queen to show proper manners. But last month in Windsor Castle, the Trumps didn’t follow this protocol (so the Queen had to give her hands to engage a handshake first to defuse the embarrassment), which arouse great disputes among western Social Media.
However, if the curtsy is too much for Trump, then how could he salute to a General in the Singapore summit? As the commander in chief of the American army, he doesn’t even need to salute to any leaders from the US army, let alone to do it to a foreign General who serves in a country that has no diplomatic relations with America. The proper response for Trump should be: nod to him as greeting and then offer a handshake.
Speaking of handshakes, Trump is famous for his trumpish handshake: always engage the handshake first; with his right hand shaking and pulling the other one’s hand over himself; left hand patting on the shaking hands, or the other’s arms/shoulders. A handshake for politicians is more of a competition of power and authority, and Trump seldom loses these competitions.
In terms of etiquette, Trump is too aggressive when he has handshakes with other people.
Trump refuses to shake hands with Merkel?
Although Trump seems to like shake hands with other people, he once refused to shake hands with German Chancellor Merkel, even when there were media around and a clear request was made for them to shake hands.
The awkwardness of this moment was recorded by cameras and reports. And Trump made a response on Twitter later to clarify his meeting with Merkel.
And later on, when Merkel visited America for the second time, Trump showed her the warmest welcome in the world he could offer.
Trump: I like to stand right in the front!
It seems that Trump likes to stand right in the front and in the spotlight. When he was in Windsor Castle, he walked in front of the Queen and blocked her way. The protocol says that: you should never ever walk in front of the Queen! Even Philip Duke of Edinburgh should also follow the rule.
It’s not the first time for Trump to do something like this. Once in NATO summit, the harmonious atmosphere was interrupted by a small incident: Trump pushed away Prime Minister of Montenegro and forced into the front row! This behaviour was considered very arrogant and impolite.
The inappropriate cheek kissing
The rule is: couples don’t do cheek kissing towards each other. However, Trump tried several times to engage cheek kissing with his wife Melania, and they did it in the wrong way: they didn’t touch each other’s cheek.
The correct way to do cheek kissing is: you have to touch the other’s cheek and do a light “smack” in the air.
Ladies and gentlemen, have you noticed other mistakes that Trump made? Do you know any other stories about anyone in regard of social manners? Please share with us!
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Dear ladies, gentleman and kids, you will certainly enjoy a high-end dinner which includes one of the oldest delicacies around, the caviar. However, are you familiar with its etiquette? How to serve and enjoy this delicacy? How to recognize the caviar’s quality?
I am inviting you to join me and have a look at one of the world’s most exclusive delicacies.
What is caviar
Caviar is salt-cured fish eggs of a female fish, traditionally coming from sturgeon. The most commonly found types are Sterlet, Sevruga, Ossetra, Beluga. It was first harvested by the Russian and Persian fishermen and enjoyed by royalty. Nowadays, it’s a delicacy among the affluent population.
How to serve it
For having fresh caviar don’t keep it unopened and stored longer than 15-20 days.
Keep it at the ideal temperature from -1 Celsius to -2 Celsius to preserve optimal quality.
Caviar should never be served on steel or stainless steel plates or forks, as this can change the taste of the caviar and make it bitter or metallic.
Eat and serve caviar with utensils of crystal, ceramic, glass or plastic to preserve the taste. The spoon should be made from bone, horn, gold or mother of pearl for the best taste.
Don’t cook it, caviar must be eaten raw.
It should never be served with lemon.
Don’t serve it as a main course it should be consumed as an appetizer or as a garnish in main meal.
Serve it cold or even in a dish of ice to keep its temperature down, never at room temperature or frozen.
Caviar is often served on unsalted crackers or bread, or on small traditional Russian pancakes called blini.
How to serve it
Caviar comes in many varieties and each of them tastes slightly different. Try different types of caviar to find one that suits your personal palate. Don’t be discouraged if the first kind you try doesn’t taste good.
1 Russian way
You’re supposed to eat it off the back of your hand, between your index finger and thumb.
2 Normal way
Traditionally, it is considered incorrect, or even rude, to take large portions of caviar at a single time. Consume it in amounts smaller than a tablespoon (or one full tablespoon maximum).
How to pair it with wine
Red wine, beer, baijiu.
Champagne, vodka, white wine.
Once it’s served, it can’t be stored, you need to finish it the same day.
Quality of the caviar
The highest quality is called Almas, which means ‘diamond’ in Russian. The rules for quality are:
If the spheres of the eggs are larger, shinier and more perfect, the highest they are in quality. If the black colour is clearer it’s more precious.
Inexpensive caviar won’t have as strong of a fish taste and will have a darker colour.
Dear All, I hope next time you will have a memorable experience with enjoying this delicacy after knowing all this. For any further question, please leave a comment, I am more than happy to serve you!
This article was first published by Michelin Guide.
Dear ladies and gentlemen, have you ever been bothered by filler words like”em”,”um”,”ah”,etc..? In fact, when you are nervous or distracted, you would tend to lean on these fillers to collect your thoughts. And there are also cases when people use these words just because they are used to them. But once you start to overuse them, they become crutch words. Then, do you know how to eliminate these crutch words to make your speech clearer and easier to follow?
The impact of filler words
Indeed, proper use of fillers （one filler/per minute on average）give both you and your audience time to digest, and in some cases they may be useful indicators that the audience should pay special attention to what comes next.
But they can also negatively influence your audience the way how they perceive the message. And your nervousness is infectious: people rarely trust a nervous speaker.
How to avoid excessive use of fillers
In our public speaking class, we have 5 “p”: Power (alternate strong and weak voice), Pitch (alternate high and low voice), Pace (fast and slow), Pause (have breaks of 3 seconds and more at the sentence’s end), Passion (communicate emotions). To avoid the excessive use of fillers, we should pay special attention to the “Pause”.
World’s fastest speaker, 586 words/per minute
According to a research, we think at 400 words per minute, but we speak at a rate of 140-160 words per minute（240 syllables/per minute in Chinese） on average. This discrepancy will distort our perception of time: what feels like an eternity in your mind is actually a few short seconds for your audience. So please do not be afraid of making pauses when you speak, and here is our advice:
1. Pause for 5 seconds before you start. It’s for you to calm down.
2. Pause for 2 seconds between each sentence to think about what you are going to say next.
3. Pause at least 3 seconds if you want to attract your audience and emphasis your next points.
Hillary Clinton’s campaign announcement: watch between 1’55 »- 3’23 »,pay attention to her pause
Practice & Exercise
How to find your filler words: choose a topic and prepare yourself a 3 minutes speech. Record your speech and find the fillers you rely on. And then you could:
1. Think about replacements. If you always start your speech with ”and then”, you could find other conjunctive words with similar meanings such as “ next”, “later on”,”besides”, etc. And use these replacements consciously and alternatively.
2. When you feel the urge to use fillers, please force yourself to be silent (like force yourself to pause), and at same time slow down the pace of your speech.
3. Listen to the news broadcaster and repeat after, stick to this practice every day and it will increase the fluency of your speech and enhance your logicality when you think and talk.
Dear all, I hope this article gives you some inspirations. And in our next public speaking article, we will help you read body languages, just keep following us!
Dear ladies and gentlemen, nowadays our social activities rely more and more on internet. As we all agree that a new space of human interactions also means new etiquette rules. So, let’s review together the new rules for online social networking.
In most cases, we live and work with people through emails. But do you know the rules and the faux-pas we should avoid?
1 Check your mail subjects before sending or responding to a message. It will help the receiver to know what it is about from the first sight, and thus increases the opening rate.
2 Watch the primary recipients and cc recipients when sending emails. Some email addresses may go to a group but the address looks like it is just one person. And don’t continue to include people if the messages have become a 2-way conversation.
3 Be especially careful with sarcasm and humour. Remember that the recipient is a human being whose culture, language, and humor may have different points of reference from your own. Remember that date formats, measurements, and idioms may not travel well. Be conservative in what you send and liberal in what you receive.
4 Respond in a timely fashion. Depending on the nature of the e-mail and the sender, responding within 24 to 48 hours is acceptable. And also keep in mind that your recipients also have other emergencies and may not give you an immediate reply.
5 Your signature in email takes the place of your name card. But you don’t have to list all your contact info, otherwise the recipients may be confused. Keep the rule that your signature need to be short and precise.
Almost all of you will use wechat or QQ or other online chatting apps in your daily communication. Have you ever thought about the etiquette rules we need to follow when we use these apps?
1 If you are in a chatting group for working, please use your real name in the group. This is the basis of credibility.
2 Explain the reason in the invitation message when add new friends. Once you have been accepted, greet him/her and explain more in detail.
3 Ask the other’s permission before sending voice messages, especially when you are dealing with clients. Avoid sending several messages all at once, and avoid sending voice messages in group chats.
4 Use emoji and stickers smartly and be careful with internet chatting languages.
1. Don’t flood the screen with vulgar stickers
2. Follow the new rules of emoji, the real meaning of the emoji is usually different with its official meaning
3. Try to understand how to use the internet language and the meaning behind it.
4. Be careful with punctuation marks. People may interpret them into different meanings if you only send punctuation marks as your response
5. Respond other’s message in 24 hours, and also give others up to one day to respond your message. In professional occasions, it is not polite to write to professional relations before 9 am or after 9 pm unless they asked for it!
Ladies and gentlemen, it is important for everyone to keep a healthy and harmonious environment online. Is there any other etiquette rule that you want to share with us? Please leave us a comment!
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Dear ladies and gentlemen, we are all used to that “Chinese eat with chopsticks while westerners eat with fork & knife”. But do you know why Chinese choose and stick to chopsticks for thousands of years?
The reason and history behind
In ancient time, human eat with fingers. Later on, people started to use tools to help and different cutleries appeared in Eastern Asia and Western Europe respectively. That’s why we have three ways of eating now: with fingers (the South Asian Subcontinent, Africa); with fork and knife (Western countries); with chopsticks and spoons (Eastern Asia and Southeast Asia). According to the record, spoon appeared 8000 y ago, fork 4000 y ago; but there is no clear record for chopsticks.
Different spoons in ancient China
To a very large extent, the differences of cutleries are caused by different cooking & eating habits. Traditionally, there are two ways of cooking: roasting and boiling. Western people have long history of eating bread (roasting & baking), meat and dairy product; they use fingers to eat bread, fork and knife are for other dishes (roasted meat for the most of time). While in China, people have special favor for rice gruel and well cooked (boiled, steamed, stir-fried) food. For rice or meat gruel, people need tools to stir it when cooking and also tools to eat it, thus chopsticks are the best choice for both purposes.
A paint of the Cooking scenario in Song dynasty
Needless to say, westerners were very surprised when they first saw Chinese eat food with two sticks. And it is said when a Chinese Catholic（Michael Alphonsius Shen Fu-Tsung） came to France in 1780’s, King Louis XIV invited him to dinner just to observe the way he eats with chopsticks!
The etiquette for chopsticks
How to place your chopsticks? During Han and Jin Dynasties, they were placed vertical to the edge of table; in Tang dynasty, parallel to the edge of table; then in Song dynasty, people re-placed them vertically and the custom remained since then.
What are the rules when using chopsticks?
Don’t point at people with chopstick
Don’t wave your chopsticks
Don’t lick or suck the end of your chopsticks
Don’t use chopsticks to drum the bowls/table
Don’t search or stir in the dishes
Don’t place your chopsticks upright in the rice
Don’t cross the two sticks when place them
Don’t pass food with chopsticks
Use the serving chopsticks
Hold the upper half of the chopsticks, don’t cross the two sticks when use them
When you want to grab the chopsticks, the correct way: the purlicue part should be placing downward, then grab with your thumb and index directly. Avoid grabbing the chopsticks with your hands and then adjusting them with both hands.
When Henry Alfred Kissinger first visited China in 1971, he was embarrassed for not knowing how to use chopsticks. Then he asked his assistant to prepare a whole set just to practice, in order to show his good intentions on promoting bilateral relations！What else do you know about the etiquette for chopsticks? Please share with us!
Dear ladies, gentlemen and children politeness is nothing hard to achieve. It’s just common sense, manners and making others feel appreciated. Politeness will make you be more likeable, appreciated, loved, respected, etc… Let’s have a look at 16 things that genuinely polite people possess!
They always greet and introduce people
The most polite people know how to greet and introduce other people. They keep using the name you used to introduce yourself, it’s your right to be addressed in the way you wish to be addressed. Of course, they all do that with a smile!
They are punctual
Kings didn’t need to be punctual. They could show up when they wanted, but King Louis XVIII suggests that one way a king can show respect for other people is to meet them at the appointed time. If this is true for kings, it certainly is true for everyone.
They never push their opinions
Remarkably polite people know that what is right for them might not be right for others, and it is not their place to decide that for you. Like most things in life, offering helpful advice is all about picking the right spot and polite people know the right spot is always after you are asked.
They never gossip or listen to gossips
Gossips are not their sphere of interest. Polite people do not talk about others behind their back.
They don’t overshare
When talking to others via social media or chatting, sharing intimate problems and happenings is not an option, that makes others feel uncomfortable.
Respect the nonsexual touch guidelines
Polite people wait for the other person to establish the nonsexual touch guidelines. They don’t slap others on the back, initiate hugs, or pat a shoulder or forearm without the other person doing so first.
They are patient
They wait and think before they say or do something. No one wants to feel like they are being judged or intolerable. If you have an air of tolerance, people will think of you to be a kind, nice, and polite person.
Social networking is so natural to them
When you are around polite people, you always ask yourself how wonderful and pleasant they are no matter they joined or left the conversation.
They use the language smartly
People react to positive-sounding words, even if they are used with a negative auxiliary. Don’t say: I think that’s a bad idea. Rather Say: I don’t think that’s such a good idea.
They use humour carefully
They aim not to cause any offence and know the boundaries of appropriate language for different situations.
They listen attentively
It’s easy to meet someone, have a decent conversation, but inevitably have it go in one ear and out the other. The most polite and the most impressive people actually take the time not only to listen to conversations but remember details about others.
They know and practice good table manners
They are not confused about cutleries, napkin etiquette and other dining manners. That way they are respectful towards their hosts, venue and other dining participants.
They dress appropriately for the occasion
Avoiding wearing revealing clothing in public and staring at others who are wearing revealing clothing is normal for them. Knowing and practising different dress codes is must do.
They are courteous
They boost their politeness with being courteous to the people around them. Holding door to others, giving a seat to a pregnant lady and other small acts are their daily routine.
They give compliments
Compliment people about their clothing, new haircut, rose garden, or delicious homemade cookies. Not because you want them to like you, but because you actually like whatever you are complimenting them on.
They never stop being polite
Remarkably polite people keep on being polite: partly because they know no other way to be, but also because they know there is no other way to be.
Dear all, If you have polite people around you, send them this article and thank them for the greatness they have, show that politeness matters!
Dear gentlemen, cufflinks can be a finishing touch to top off your daily attire, regardless if it is a formal/informal social or business occasion. They should stay in tune with your sophisticated style and express who you are! With that in mind, let’s review together how, when and which cufflinks to use!
How to use
Cufflinks can be worn either on shirt’s cuffs with holes on both sides on the opening (Barrel cuffs) or with doubled-back French cuffs, which have two holes on either side of the opening. With French cuffs be sure when you fold the cuff back that holes are one atop the other.
When wear the cufflink, you need to pull it through on one side of the cuff. Match the cuff’s holes so one is atop the other. Fasten the cuff and make sure the cuff opening are lined up and the cufflink is set into its closed position.
These cufflinks are categorized by a small cylinder that is set between two short bars, and is flipped 90 degrees to secure. It is the most popular one since it is very secure.
It consists of a flat face with a “whale tail” that flips back to close the link. Also very popular because it is easy to handle.
They are small and light in weight. Most secure type but requires the most effort to fasten since it has immovable parts. For this type you need to wear a special shirt with stud holes since the studs act like a button.
Most traditional and original of all types. This link allows for a looser cuff according to preference, and can be fastened with ease.
A more advanced style, the ball return cufflink can be found in both chain link and fixed closure variations. Faces will vary with design, but the back end will always be differentiated by its ball shape. East to put on and provides looseness for the cuffs.
The most affordable but not so durable. Great detail to have for informal occasions,the silk knot cufflink provides pops of color and ease of use.
Unique design, functional and innovative. Has an intelligent dual-action fold-able locking system, cufflink is inserted and folded to lock in.
Despite their size, cufflinks can make or break a menswear look. Choose which shapes and designs best suit you. You can use them in any informal and formal occasions but make sure you have the proper cufflinks for the occasion. Have a look on the picture and respond which ones you would use in formal and which ones in informal occasions?
This time, if you are a boss and you want to embrace your mentality by sticking to sophisticated shapes and materials for a cutting-edge look which cufflinks would you choose?
Which cufflink material you find most flattering for yourself, please write in the comments?!
Dear gentlemen, I hope you enjoy wearing cufflinks as much as I do! If you never tried, hope after this article you will. From my experience gifting a pair of cufflinks can be a perfect present, feel free to try it. Please let us know if you have questions and share your answers with us!