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How to choose the perfect lipstick?

Dear Ladies (and curious Gentlemen), a woman’s mouth is one of the most expressive part of the face. Thus it is important to know how to embellish it by respecting the features and the skin tone of each woman. I propose to review some obvious rules, but please share your beauty secrets with us!

By colour

If you have a very white skin: you have a large range of choice. Simply be ware of colours that may be too strong and too visible on you. For instance, if you have an intense red be sure not to have shiny earrings or heavy make-up on the eyes.


An intense red be sure not to have shiny earrings or heavy make-up on the eyes

If you have a yellowish skin: your lipstick should have golden / olive tones to match your skin complexion, or you may look sick. A burgundy or brick-red lipstick are good ideas. Be careful, pearly-lustre lipsticks are not compatible with yellowish skin tones.


Cameo brown

Beware, be cautious when choosing an orange-tune lipstick if your teeth are not shiningly white.


In comparison,the teeth seem not shiningly white with orange lipstick

By type

Matte: Generally, it is a kind of dry texture with high saturation, and last long on lips;

Glaze: a lip gloss with liquid texture and last shorter. However new types of lipstick have been created, which perform nice simultaneously on colour, moisture condition and long-lasting.

When choosing different types of lipstick, you should firstly match it with the foundation.

With a matte foundation: then you need to pair it with a matte lipstick, no glaze.


Mate

With a light foundation: you may adjust the glaze on your lips depending on the effect wished


Light fondation with glaze lipstick

If your skin is under bad condition: that is to say, with obvious pores and marks, a shinny lipgloss will make it look the skin look even more rough. Use a matte or satin one instead.

If your lips are so dry that they become flaky, apply lip balm to them 5 minutes before you put on any lipsticks, or simply use a lips mask. But remember to wipe it off before putting on lipsticks, or the colour may not spread nicely. Among all types of lipstick, the “satin”,”cream” ones are the most widely-adapted.

By occasion

Formal occasions: Business, work, elegant events, in these cases you want to attract attention on your personality and intelligence, not on your make-up. Avoid glazing lipstick and too intense colours. Rather pick matte and conventional colours such as red, pink if not shiny etc.

Casual occasions and daily life: Here you have more freedom. Rather pick light and glazing colours during day time, darker and matte during evenings.

Lunch and dinner: If you know you will attend a meeting during which you have to drink at a glass just put a light lipstick, the marks you may leave will not be too visible.

Generally speaking, glossy lips are the symbol of youth, matte of seriousness. Adjust according to the effect you want to give!

Here are a few tips, but I am impatient to read yours. How do you pick your lipstick?

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Hot or cold water, which one is the best?

Dear ladies and gentlemen, shall we drink hot or cold water once having dinner? Here in China most people drink hot water, but did you know that many countries are more likely to drink cold, even ice, water when eating, also in winter? Hot or cold, which one do you prefer? One can help to get slimmer!

I remember clearly a moment of my childhood, one of the first time I had to bring water at the dinner table for my family: my mother asked me to fill the carafe again, because the first one I brought was with hot water, and not chill water. Indeed, in many Western countries, it is very common to drink cold water.

So I was very surprised once arriving in China to discover people are mostly drinking hot water here. But it seems I am not the only one: when I try to Google “Why Chinese drink…” it automatically presents me “hot water”.

Even though the Chinese could come up with a million of good things about drinking hot water, many tourists still refuse the hot water served in restaurants. That is why luxury hotels and international restaurants in China would serve cool water if they hear someone come for abroad.

Now, I also drink hot water. Once I was traveling to America, in wintertime, and I received a class filled with cubes of ice! But being used to live in China I had to ask them “room temperature” water. I am becoming Chinese somehow. Did you experience it? Now let’s compare the two options.

Advantages of drinking warm water

Calm down: Warm water helps your central nervous system to calm down, thus enabling more controlled reactions. Moreover, it will help to feel fewer aches, pains and panicked moments throughout the day.

Blood circulation: Warm water helps your organs to carry blood more effectively, decreasing risk of cardiovascular diseases.

Digestion: Warm water helps activating and soothing your digestion: digestive organs are better hydrated and able to eliminate waste. Hot water can dissolve and dissipate things you’ve eaten that your body might have had trouble digesting.

Nasal congestion: The steam of the hot water can help loosen clogged sinuses and even relieve a sinus headache. Since you have mucous membranes throughout your neck and upper torso, drinking hot water can help warm that area and soothe a sore throat.

Advantages of drinking cold water

Weight loss: Cold water will boost your metabolism by 550%, as your body needs to compensate the temperature lost. It will then burn more calories.

Cool down: In summertime, drinking cool water is good for your health. It is definitely the best to balance the heat, it helps your body to regulate its temperature.

What the best to do then?

Finally, it seems to be again the good etiquette rule we often give: it’s all about adaptation. Depending the moment, we should drink warm or cold water.

Warm water: Definitely recommended when eating, when being sick and in winter. It will help the body to preserve its energy by not having to compensate a liquid colder than the body’s temperature.

Cold water: This shall be kept for summertime during heat waves, or after heavy exercises. It would help your body to get back to normal temperature (but don’t drink ice water! It would be too much of a shock!)

So finally, which one do you prefer? Which one is the best according to you? Tell us your opinion!

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How a lady should properly stand

Dear ladies, I am sure many of you have already been wondering: what is the proper standing posture? How to place my arms and my feet? What can I do when I start to feel pain? I propose you to review together the proper postures you can adopt every day.

Your shoulders

We said it in our previous articles: your shoulders should always, ALWAYS, be down and backward. It’s elegant and healthy for your spine (rounded shoulders would add pressure on your vertebras).

How to reach this position? Again, same exercise: Place your shoulders in front- Up – Back – Down.

Keep your stomach in. You can breathe normally. Your neck must remain straight. It’s healthier and more elegant.

Your arms

The elegant pose

Here place your arms at the belly-button level, put one hand on the other one, fingers relaxed, covering only the two first phalanx. Your rings remain visible.

The confident pose

This pose is simple, but not the one most of people would have thought of: simply let your arms along the body! It makes your body shape longer, and create a space between your arms and your body, giving a slimmer appearance.

This is typically the pose many stars would have when taking photos. You may think you look weird, but actually not at all. This is why I would call it the “confident pose”: you need to be self-confident enough to do it.

Avoid crossing arms

Don’t cross your arms. It will give a bad impression about yourself (closed mind), and will also make your back round.

Your feet

The elegant pose

Place one foot facing straight in front of the other facing towards the side. This gives you a slimmer and taller shape.

When? When you want to look elegant. This pose is also pretty common among stars.

The proper pose

Simply have your feet joined together, against each other. This position is for those who don’t want to catch attention.

When? If you are working in hospitality, service, at a junior position, or if you just want to be discreet.

The confident pose

This is the same as the proper pose, but you don’t have to put your feet together, you could have a little space in between (not larger than the shoulder). It gives a more solid, confident impression.

When? If you are working in an executive position.

How to relieve your pressure

For those of you who must stand for a long time, here is what you can do to relieve the pressure.

Start to put all your weight on your heels when standing.
Once it becomes painful, start to put the weight on your toes. You will bend a bit. It will relieve your heels and hips.
Alternate this slowly, and you will be able to stand for a long time.

But I am sure you also have some standing postures and technics you would like to share with us. Please do it in the comments below!

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How to eat fruit formally?

Dear ladies and gentlemen, spring is coming soon which also means more seasonal and fresh fruits. Do you know how to eat certain fruits in high-end restaurants or during a formal dinner? Let’s review together!

I. Cherry

Cherries are a small stoned fruit, how would you eat it? Take one by the stem, put it in your mouth and spit the stone out? Most of you agree that is not an elegant way to eat cherries.

How to eat

1. Use you spoon to take one cherry

2. Place entirely the fruit in your mouth and clean the pit as much as possible

3. Use again your spoon to take out the pit, while you do that, use your free hand to cover your mouth

4. Discard the pit on your plate.

II. Banana

If you have a banana served to you during a formal occasion, how would you eat it? Will grab it with your hands, peel off the skin and put it in your mouth? This behavior, if you were back to the 19th century is considered as “the monkey way”, worth for savages and very impolite.

How to eat

1. Cut off the two ends of the banana

2. Use the fork to press the banana softly, with your knife you will open only the skin from one end to the other

3. Use your fork and knife to peel off the skin to the sides, put the ends of the fruit in the skin

4. Cut and eat in small pieces

III. Watermelon

Do you take one slice of watermelon and bite on it? During any formal occasions, if watermelon is served, it won’t be as a slice but rather cubed or in pieces without the skin.

How to eat

1. Use your fork to cut a bite sized piece

2. Bring it to your mouth. Small bites of watermelon at a time

3. If you want to get rid of the seeds, just use the tines of your fork to pull them out and leave it on the side of your plate

4. Then again if necessary cut a small piece before eating.

IV. Mango

The mango skin is really thick making it inedible. The mango can be presented to you already cubed, in that case just use your fork to take a piece and eat it. If the mango is presented to you as a whole, you can try the checkboard method.

How to eat

1. Start by trimming a small piece from the top part of the fruit so you can keep it steady

2. Then cut two large slices along the pit and cut all the way round

3. To create the checkboard, cut some lines from one side to the other and then some lines equally space going the opposite direction. The slices should be deep but without cutting through the skin

4. To eat the fruit, cut the cubes away from the peel

V. Kiwi fruit

Some people can eat the skin of the kiwi but it can be a little bit irritating. Another simple way to eat kiwi would be to cut the fruit in half and then scoop out the flesh with a spoon, but there is a third method, more elegant to eat it.

How to eat

1. Trim off both ends of the kiwi

2. You can use a pairing knife or a spoon to peel off the skin (insert the spoon under the skin and turn)

3. Slice the kiwi fruit and enjoy

VI. Grapefruit

You are having a grapefruit at the table, how should you eat it? You might want to peel the skin off with your hands but it is thicker than the orange skin. In this case, using a knife is ideal as it will take off most of the pith (the bitter white part) and it is also a more gracious solution.

How to eat

1. Cut the bottom part of the grapefruit to keep it steady

2. Hold the top of the fruit with your fork and with the knife start making a cut on the skin from top to down deep enough so you can peel off the pith easier, 1 cm away from the top piece and repeat the gesture all around the grapefruit

3. Pull the skin away from the flesh using your knife

4. Cut small pieces before eating

Dear all now you are all set to enjoy your next meal! Are there any other fruits you are confused with and don’t know how to eat elegantly? Please share with us!

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Table Plans for Social Occasions

Dear ladies and gentlemen: we often have family dinners, or dinners with friends. How to create a proper table plan for this occasion? I propose you to discover here the etiquette rules for social occasions.

What are table plans?

We use table plans to designate who will be seated where at the table. This is not done at random but by precedence: who is more important, more senior, than whom, and who has the right to be seated next to important people. Imagine for instance you have to do a table plan for these people for dinner at your home:

Complicated right? I will give you the answer after a few explanations.

How to create table plans

Step One: People

In our example, squares are men, rounds are women. Square 1 is the most important man, round 1 the most important woman, square 2 the 2nd most important man, round 2 the 2nd most important man etc.

Step Two:How to start?

You start to place the host and hostess at the extremity of the table.

This is the family style. Generally, the host faces the entrance of guests (so that he can guide late comers) and the hostess faces the kitchen door, in order to guide staff serving with eye contact. We use the same approach for round tables.

Step 3: How to place the people ranked 2nd?

Here you have to remember 2 rules:

1. The right is more important than the left.
2. We alternate the genders.

You will note it is actually the same for a round table:

Rules:

1. The most important man (the host)has the 2nd most important womanon his right.
2. Then we place the 3rd most important lady on his left. Same for the hostess.
3. Mrs. 2 has the seniority ranking to receive Mr. 4 on her right.
4. Mr. 2 has the seniority ranking to receive Mrs. 4 on his right. We place the 5 then.

Practice

In reality, there is often not the same amount of ladies and gentlemen, sothen you have to be smart.

Let’s come back to our guests.

1. So, first of all, who will be the host with you? (we consider “you” as a lady, the table plan would be different if “you” is a gentleman). It has to be a man, as there is not your husband / boyfriend here. Then, most important man here, and the only official, is Emmanuel Macron, as President of France.

On your right, the 2nd most important man could be either Ma Yun or Ma Huateng. I consider Ma Yun has been successful and famous before Ma Huateng, so he has the precedence.

Then, who is the 2nd most important lady seating on the right of Macron? Normally it should be Brigitte Macron, but spouses cannot be seated together. So I choose to place Angelina Jolie, as she is an UN embassador.

The 3rd most important man is of course Ma Huateng. On the left of Macron I choose to place Zhang Ziyi, as she has been famous before all the other ladies.

Now we can place Brigitte Macron on the right of Ma Yun. Ma Huateng deserves to have the next most important lady: Gao Yuanyuan (who has been famous before Lady Gaga)

Finally, on the side of Angelina Jolie we should have a man, but we only have women left. Shall we have Lady Gaga of your sister? In table plans, family members are “useful guests”: you can place them at the last rank they should not hate you too much (normally…), and you make feel your second to last guest good to have someone of your family below him/her. That’s why I place Gaga close to Angelina Jolie, and the sister close to Zhang Ziyi.

This was an example of simple complexity. Imagine now how difficult it can be if you have dozens of persons to place, and have to find out who is of higher importance than who! If you want to know more, please let us know!

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Looking glamourous in the right swimsuit

Dear ladies, summer is already here. I am sure you are looking forward to go to the beach, but do you know your body shape and which swimsuit comes along with it? Follow me to find your perfect swimsuit for this summer!

Which body type are you?

1. Inverted triangle

Your shoulders are wider than your waistline and hipline? You should be inverted triangle shaped.

Your goal: focus the attention on your legs and hips in order to balance your body shape.

My advices: your ideal swimsuit will have to enhance your legs and hips. Therefore, you can choose a low-leg style bikini in order to broaden your hips or a high-waisted bottom to accentuate your waistline.

  

If you have beautiful legs, you must definitelygo for a high-cut one-piece. This kind of swimsuit will enhance your legs and create the illusion of hourglass shape.

You may get some inspiration from Naomi Campbell or Cheng Lisha for example.

 

2. Rectangle morphology

Your shoulders, waistline and hipline are about the same size? Then, you must be rectangle shaped!

Your goal: create the illusion of defined curves and waistline.

My advices: choose a padded bikini because it will enhance your breast and make it look bigger. You can also go for a swimsuit with ties on the bottom part thus to create wider hips and give the illusion of a thinner waistline.

Olivia Wilde, Gwyneth Paltrow or even Nicole Kidman have this type of morphology, therefore you can get inspired by their styles!

   

3. Hourglass morphology

Your hips and shoulders are about the same size, but your waistline is a lot smaller? You are definitely hourglass shaped!

Your goal: show your feminine curves, lucky you!

My advices: there are so many options offered to you, you can wear any type of swimsuit! Indeed, any type of leg cut or neckline will suit you. You can choose some printed swimsuit for a joyful summer.
If you are more comfortable with a one-piece swimsuit, you should choose one very colorful: it’s summer!

  

I advise you to avoid large garments, it will accentuate your body shape and it is not very elegant. If you want a better lift and support, you should get a bikini with higher straps.

Sofía Vergara, Zhang Ziyi or even Kim Kardashian have this kind of body shape, you can definitely check their styles!

 

4. Pear body shape

Are your hips wider than your shoulders and waistline? You are definitely pear shaped then.

Your goal: emphasize your top half and to draw the attention away from your hips.

My advices: to elongate your legs, you should wear a higher cut swimsuit because it will create the illusion of thinner and longer legs.

If you want to draw the attention away from your hips, you should wear dark colors on the bottom.

 

Finally, if you wish to have a colorful swimsuit, I advise you to wear bright colors on the top part. Indeed, it will create the illusion of an intensified breast.

You can take ideas from Rihanna’s or Cheryl Burke’s style.

 

5. Apple body shape

Your shoulders and hips are about the same size? Your waistline is about the same size or wider than your shoulders and hipline? Therefore, you are apple shaped!

Your goal: emphasize your chest and to draw the attention away from your belly.

My advices: choose a swimsuit with vertical line thus will elongate your body shape. I recommend you to not choose a swimsuit with horizontal lines because it can create the illusion of a wider body.

I also recommend you to choose a V-neckline swimsuit because it will enhance your breast and draw the attention away from your belly.

 

If you are not really confident with your belly, I advise you to wear a long tankini or one-piece bathing suit with over-the-shoulders straps and you should choose solid colors on neutral dark background.

Lisa Rinna and Elizabeth Hurley have also this body shape, you can check their styles!

 

Dear ladies, I hope this help you to find your next swimsuit. Do you want to know more about beach etiquette? Let us know!

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How men can remain formal in Summer

Dear Gentlemen, summer is a tough time in classic menswear. Instead of using the summer heat as an excuse to relax your dress code – see it as an opportunity to incorporate colour, new fabrics and styles into your wardrobe. Let me guide you how to remain cool while wearing a suit.

Shirt

To prefer

Fabric: Wear materials that allow your skin to breath and have lightweight as well (cotton, linen, chambray, cotton-poplin)

Colour: Any pastel colour (white, pink, blue, orange, beige…)

Other rules:

Shirt must be embroidered in the trousers.
You can wear the plain shirt, striped one or with some another pattern that fits youroutfit.
If you are in formal situation, you can’t unbutton the upper one. This is for business casual, and only if you don’t have a tie.
You may roll up your long sleeves elegantly if you want to feel fresh.

To avoid

Short sleeves shirts. They are for children only, or for very casual outfit. Not formal or even business casual.
Having a tie AND the upper button open. This is not proper.


The first button can not be open when you are wearing a tie

Tie

To prefer

Fabric: Silk, cashmere, cotton, linen

Colour: Any pastel colour

Pattern: Stripes, dots or any elegant one

Other rules:

When your tie is properly tied, the tip should end just above your belt buckle at maximum. Anything longer should be retied.
Match your tie’s colour with accessories.

To avoid

Do not wear poorly tied or wrinkled tie.
Do not wear any funny pattern, such as cartoons

Jacket

To prefer

Fabric: Wear materials that allow your skin to breath and have lightweight as well (cotton, linen, seersucker, cotton-piqué, fresco, chambray)

Colour: Light gray, baby blue, navy blue, khaki, berry, etc…

Other rules:

For single-breasted suits, if you are standing the last button should be unbuttoned no matter how many buttons are there. Once you sit you should unbutton the remaining ones/one.
Pair the blazer with trousers.

To avoid

Dark colour jacket (black, dark blue) with winter fabric shouldn’t be worn in summer.

Trousers

To prefer

Fabric: Wear materials that allow your skin to breath and have light weight as well (cotton, linen, seersucker, cotton-piqué, fresco, chambray)

Colour: Light gray, baby blue, navy blue, khaki, berry, etc…

Other rules:

Trousers should only break once on the shoes if you are wearing full-length trousers and should crease once on your feet, not having too many pleats.
If you are wearing cropped ones then they are cut to hit just above the ankle.


Only break once on the shoes

To avoid

Please carefully choose the length that fits you, do not fold your trousers as a solution.
Dark coloured trousers (black, dark blue) with winter fabric shouldn’t be worn in summer.


Do not fold your trousers

NB: For people who have a working uniform, rules about the colour are not applicable.

Belt

To prefer

Material: Leather (full grain, braided, exotic leather (crocodile, lizard, ostrich))

Colour: Black, brown, khaki, beige, white

Other rules:

Your belt should be the same colour with your shoes.
For some business casual occasions, braided or woven belts are a great choice for summer.

To avoid

Don’t wear an eye-catching statement belt if you’re not confident about drawing attention to your waist.
Don’t use oversized buckle, it should be small, plain and polished.

Socks

To prefer

Fabric: Merino wool, bamboo, cotton, modal

Colour: Pastel colours, light gray, baby blue, navy blue, khaki, berry, etc…

Other rules:

When you are wearing socks, they should match with your accessory or with colour of your trousers.
If you wear long trousers – socks should be long enough so when you are seated, we can’t see your skin.
If you wear cropped trousers – socks shouldn’t be worn or you can use invisible socks. They are short, thin cotton socks with a low profile that you can’t see outside the shoe.

To avoid

Thick socks are reserved for winter.
Pure white socks are ONLY for sports, do not wear them with your suit.
Do not wear any funny pattern in professional occasions.

Shoes

To prefer

Fabric: Leather (perforated, woven leather shoes)

Colour: Black, brown, grey, olive green, navy blue, beige

Other rules:
Our pair of shoes should be comfortable enough so we can make pleasant movements.
As I already said, match your shoes with the belt.

To avoid

We should never wear open shoes no matter how nice it is to have them during a hot day.
Plastic shoes are also not suitable.
Sports shoes are ONLY for sport, don’t combine them with your suit.

Do you have any other advice how to remain professional and cool in summer? Please, share with us!

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Drinks that accentuate your femininity

Dear ladies, I am sure you encounter the situation when you should drink alcoholic drink either to join the toast or to have a nice picture to share on social media. Since you are sophisticated lady, your drink order should support that image. I’ve created the list of top 6 drinks a lady can choose according to the taste, elegance and attractiveness when taking a photo. Let’s stay classy together!

Quick etiquette tips

1. Bring the glass to your mouth, not the opposite, don’t slouch!


Princess Diana is bending her head too much

2. If wearing lipstick, check it from time to time so it’s not ruined and drink from the same point so the glass doesn’t get messy.


Lipsticks everywhere is not elegant

3. When toasting with foreigners, clink the glasses and look them into eyes.


Always having eye contact when toasting!

4. Better hold the glass with the left hand in case you have to shake hands, exchange a wechat with your telephone, or simply take a call on the right hand.

5. Never have your small finger extended.


Do you know why you can’t raise the small finger?

6. Don’t mix different drinks, you can easily get tipsy.

Ladylike drinks

1. Cosmopolitan Cocktail

The taste is sour, fruity and refreshing. It’s very feminine cocktail because of the colour and the glass shape. You can match the colour with pink lipstick or nails for the best photo.

Drinkware etiquette



All glasses used for shooting are from Baccarat

Pinch the cocktail glass at the stem closer to the liquid so you can perfectly balance the whole glass. It’s not elegant either proper to grab it on the V shape part.


Samantha properly holding the Cosmo which is the signature cocktail of the show “Sex and the city”

2. The White Lady Cocktail

The taste is sour and fruity, but it’s a bit stronger cocktail. The name comes from a lady who was a platinum blonde. Coupe glass is very feminine and elegant, the white liquid even more adds to the luxury look.

Drinkware etiquette


Pinch at the stem. You may use another hand as a support. It’s not elegant either proper to grab it on the upper part of the glass.


Yang Ziqiong holding the glass in a wrong way.

3. Rose Champagne

Most elegant drink you can ever ask for. You can go with different options, but Rose Champagne with its pale pink colour, crisps, clean flavours and delicate bubbles is a perfect ladylike choice.

Drinkware etiquette


Same way of holding as of the cocktail glass. If your other hand is free you can pinch with that one as well, it’s a nice way to show your rings and beautiful hands.


Zhang Ziyi holding the glass of Rose Champagne with the both hands.

4. Chardonnay Wine

If you like the idea of rich and creamy taste then the classic style of oak-aged Chardonnay wine is a choice for you. With wine you can never lose face and your femininity. Nice jewellery will make the glass of white wine sparkle even more.

Drinkware etiquette


It should be always pinched at the stem with 3 fingers( thumb, index and middle finger).


Pinkish colour goes well with Chardonnay wine

5. Prosecco

Taste is usually dry but because of grapes’ fruity flavors it tastes sweeter than it is. This glass can make you very feminine and elongate your posture because of its slim appearance.

Drinkware etiquette


Pinch it by the stem. For additional support you may place your pinky finger underneath the base.


Posing with Prosecco will be a nice choice for elegant ladies

6. Black forest coffee cocktail

It’s a special coffee cocktail. The flavour is sweet and reminiscent of the Black Forest cake and has fewer calories. It’s garnished with whip cream and cherry which makes it look & taste very yummy.

Drinkware etiquette


Here we can warm up the cognac with a hand which will help release the aromas.


Kate Middleton holding the snifter glass in inappropriate way

Dear ladies, I hope this will help you in your next high-end gathering. Take the photo with one of the drinks you like and send it to us, the most elegant ones we’ll share on our social media!

Many thanks to our partner Baccarat for sponsoring us with these beautiful glasses!

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The proper etiquette for eating Spaghetti

Dear ladies, gentlemen, children, you may have the opportunity to go to Europe and more precisely to Italy. This country, offer us a delicious kind of pasta quite hard to eat elegantly: The Spaghetti. With a spoon, a fork? How to deal with the sauce? Here are the answers to those difficulties to help you remain sophisticated when eating Spaghetti in restaurant.

The spoon mores

We use to hear that it is recommended to use a soup spoon to eat Spaghetti, that it helps to wind the pasta around the fork. But to be honest, this is really not from the Italian customs. You can indeed use a spoon as a support but it is not considered as the right way to eat them: the fork is the single cutlery needed to eat Spaghetti properly.


Here is an example of the right way to use a spoon if it is necessary.

Wind around the fork

When you start eating Spaghetti, take three or four pastas with your fork. Then start to wind the Spaghettis around your fork, placing the teeth of the fork on the plate with a 45° angle. It will help you to maintain the pasta together in a uniform wrap.

About the direction, I recommend you to wind the pastas slowly in the anti-clockwise direction. If you turn in the clockwise way, you may have some spaghetti full of sauce falling from the fork and landing on your chin when you will try to eat them.

The cutting rules

It is totally forbidden and considerate impolite to cut the Spaghetti you have in your plate. It is the same thing as the “Foie Gras” that you should never spread on the bread. It is a rule to know as an educated person.

Do not mistake noodles and Spaghetti. You can’t eat them the same way: never hoover the spaghetti up in your mouth. At the same time, it is not elegant at all and you will project sauce everywhere on your attire. The second thing to never do is to bite the pasta in order to cut them because they are too long.

Dear ladies, gentlemen, children, I hope this article helped you to understand the proper manners to eat Spaghetti in restaurants or in Italy. The thing to think about is to take your time, be delicate and savour your dish.

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How to sit and cross legs as an elegant lady?

Dear Ladies, being elegant is all about your attitude, especially when you sit. How can you sit gracefully and what posture should you have depending on your outfit? How to sit with a long dress, with a knee-length skirt or with a short skirt?

How to sit gracefully?

How to sit elegantly is a body posture mater. In fact, you should pay attention to several points:

1. Keep your back straight, lengthening your spine. Your shoulders, chest and waist should be aligned on the same line. You can train yourself in front of a mirror. Sit down and stand up, one of your side facing the mirror so you check that you maintain this line.

2. Hold your head strong and elegantly. Look straightforward, your chin parallel to the floor. Try to sit as if you had a book on your head, making sure it does not fall. (You can also do this exercise at home to feel the right posture).

3. Stand as close as you can to the front of the chair. Your back leg need to touch the seat. Then slide one foot back gracefully and sit down on the seat. Your thighs should hold your weight, not your knees.

4. Sit up straight with your legs close together and your heels slightly ahead of the chair. You can sit with your legs in front of you: angle your knees either left on the left or the right side. Never sit with your legs apart: it is an ungraceful posture that you must not adopt.

5. What about your arms? Keep them joined in front of you when you seat and place them delicately on your lap once seated.

Crossing your legs: how to do it?

1. Long Dress

DO: You can cross your legs on your knees. It will give you an elegant and lengthened shape: the dress will create the illusion of one long leg. To accentuate this silhouette, leave a small space between the heel of the leg you crossed and your other ankle.

DON’T: Do not let your upside foot floating in the air, it will break the shape of your legs and give unwanted volume to the bottom of your body.

2. Knee-length dress

DO: Cross your legs on your knees but beware, it can rise up your dress and show your thighs, which would be crude. You should turn your body either on the left or on the right, facing the person in front of you from 1/3. Depending on the side, place the leg from the back on the front leg as Kendall Jenner did on the photo below.


She is correctly sited but it is not elegant to cross legs with a skirt as short as this.

DON’T: Do not cross the leg facing the person you are seating in front of. If you cross the wrong leg, you will show way more upside, will give the impression that your thigh is larger. Do not lay your leg on the other, it will change the silhouette of your legs and make them flabbier.


Her legs are not properly crossed: she is sitting on her right, and crossing her left leg on.


Lady Obama should cross the other leg to attenuate the shape of her leg.

3. Short skirt

DO: The best way to avoid showing your skin is to cross your ankles instead of your legs, making sure you keep your legs close together. You can point your feet gracefully as it will lengthen your legs. Finally, your legs must make a 90° angle.

DON’T: Do not hold your knees apart: keep them close together. Do not put your feet under your seat, it will show how uncomfortable your are feeling.

If you’re attending a social event and doubting on how to sit, simply cross your ankle: you will never make any mistake with this pose if you remember to keep your legs together.

Ladies, you are now able to sit properly and to adapt your posture depending on your outfit. Seating properly is one of the main skills an elegant and refined lady must master. Therefore, you must practice. You are welcomed to book one of our deportment and/or table manners classes if you want to learn more.

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